I think
that blaming the media for how women perceive themselves is nothing but a
cop-out. It is my opinion as a woman who doesn’t buy into the idea that I
should be all glammed up for people to like me, that we have to take
responsibility for ourselves and how we feel about our bodies and our looks.
But then again, it has occurred to me
that there is a pattern in my preference of television shows.
I grew up
in the generation of the WB, what is now the CW. I never watched Seventh Heaven
or anything like that. I preferred shows like Gilmore Girls and in fourth
grade, I was introduced to this little show called Charmed. Fifth grade came
around and I was hooked, recording every episode until the finale four years
later. In sixth grade, I watched Birds of Prey, which only lasted for one
season. And I recorded all but one episode of that. Somewhere along the line, I
saw glimpses of this show called Witchblade. I’m currently obsessed with Sex
and the City, it is my chocolate. I love Lipstick Jungle and my current show
that I watch every week is Lost Girl. If you’re familiar with all of these
shows, can you tell me the common denominator? I’ll give you a cookie.
Women lead
these shows. Every last one of them. If it’s supernatural or just career women
in NYC, all of those shows have strong women at the helm. This is what I
gravitated towards. It is what I came up watching. It is what influenced me and
is still influencing me. Take no shit. Do what you feel is right and when
you’re knocked down, always come back up swinging. Find love. Be happy. I
learned from these women, maybe even more so than from my own mother. But when
they screwed up or did something wrong, I also saw them pay the consequences.
Is it any
wonder I call myself a feminist these days? Even as a pimply faced teenager…
Even though
the shows I’ve watched over the years have influenced me, I would like to think
that I can still be independent of them, of what they say a woman should be. I
know that not everything Carrie says I agree with. I certainly don’t like
everything the women of any of these shows wear. That is, I don’t see it and
automatically think that’s how I need to dress/look.
Some might
say that I am eclectic Pagan, which means that I pick and choose what suits me.
Maybe the same is true of the media I get interested in. And that is how I
justify saying that blaming the media for girls starving themselves to death is
a cop-out. It’s time we take responsibility for ourselves. It’s time that we
take responsibility for the way our daughters see themselves. It is one of the
first things that I’ve realized I want to teach my children – self-worth. What
we see on the screen can influence us, but we can’t let it rule us. Just like
we can’t let the opinions of others dictate how we feel about ourselves. And it
starts while we’re young.
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